So, this morning I feel an urging need to write down something here that’s about love relationships. For the past sometime, I have been seeing some of my really loving, confident and honest friends publish posts that talk depressingly about love relationships, which portray a bitter picture of being in love. To this I have a few things to say…
*Love is a mysterious thing, you will not understand the how, what and why of it most of the times!
*However mysterious it is, it is one of the simplest and subtlest of all emotions that any living being can comprehend. Therefore you will surely end up falling in love with someone, because it comes naturally to you and everyone else!
*What we forget (when in love) is that if you love someone, it never is a rule to have it reciprocated. But when we are in love, we mostly, make an effort to make the person who we are in love with fall for us!
*When in a relationship someone says an ‘I love you’…it mostly means an ‘I love you’ ONLY. Understanding hidden meanings behind the 3 golden words complicates stuff…. An ‘I Love You’ rarely depicts a commitment for marriage…but we assume!
*I have also seen quite a lot of people say… “I have wasted so many years with him/her, just to get dumped”. Guys can you please explain what happened to your head in those years that you were ‘wasting’ with them, those exact years that you now feel wasted were once termed as ‘Golden’? Please explain…not to me…to yourself!
*Wanting to get married to the person you love is very natural to most people, but when it does not materialize please understand that there are hundreds of reasons that come into picture. When you love a certain person, all his/her cute and sweet habits are for you to see only for a few hours. Marriage is about seeing each other and their behaviour almost all the wake hours of your life and that is a big game changer for the decision making! Those who cannot agree for marriage are not cowards or cheats all the time.
*It is only marriage and love relationships in which there is a scope of breach, because we as a society have created the scope. Meaning, when you are angry or not in good terms with your mother, father, sister, brother…you don’t divorce them or dump them for the fact that there is no such provision. But it’s only for marriage and similar relationships that we make brave moves like dump, ditch and divorce…Wow! the 3-Ds! Why can’t we just expand our perspective?
*I agree that many of us put in a lot of effort in their relationships to make it happier and with due respect to every such person I would like to say that we must all agree to accept that there sometimes are some higher things in life that govern our relationships (that we may not understand, due to our limited knowledge of the universe) and we ought to leave them that way!
* Making a slur of our past relationships only worries us more. We must stop feeling victimized and understand that sadness, guilt, betrayal and all such negative emotions are essential for our lives to function. For, without them, we would never be able to figure out joy, happiness and mania. Remember, for every yin there is a yang! But like we can’t party every day, we can’t sulk every day too!
**NOT-SO-DISCLAIMER: Just in case you thought I was doling out all this gyaan without any personal experience, I would like to let you know that I have had enough of what it takes to write all of this and I am still waiting to live more, learn more!
Closing with a Rumi quote: “Whatever you know or you don't...Only love is real!”
Love will stay supreme!
Nirupama
*However mysterious it is, it is one of the simplest and subtlest of all emotions that any living being can comprehend. Therefore you will surely end up falling in love with someone, because it comes naturally to you and everyone else!
*What we forget (when in love) is that if you love someone, it never is a rule to have it reciprocated. But when we are in love, we mostly, make an effort to make the person who we are in love with fall for us!
*When in a relationship someone says an ‘I love you’…it mostly means an ‘I love you’ ONLY. Understanding hidden meanings behind the 3 golden words complicates stuff…. An ‘I Love You’ rarely depicts a commitment for marriage…but we assume!
*I have also seen quite a lot of people say… “I have wasted so many years with him/her, just to get dumped”. Guys can you please explain what happened to your head in those years that you were ‘wasting’ with them, those exact years that you now feel wasted were once termed as ‘Golden’? Please explain…not to me…to yourself!
*Wanting to get married to the person you love is very natural to most people, but when it does not materialize please understand that there are hundreds of reasons that come into picture. When you love a certain person, all his/her cute and sweet habits are for you to see only for a few hours. Marriage is about seeing each other and their behaviour almost all the wake hours of your life and that is a big game changer for the decision making! Those who cannot agree for marriage are not cowards or cheats all the time.
*It is only marriage and love relationships in which there is a scope of breach, because we as a society have created the scope. Meaning, when you are angry or not in good terms with your mother, father, sister, brother…you don’t divorce them or dump them for the fact that there is no such provision. But it’s only for marriage and similar relationships that we make brave moves like dump, ditch and divorce…Wow! the 3-Ds! Why can’t we just expand our perspective?
*I agree that many of us put in a lot of effort in their relationships to make it happier and with due respect to every such person I would like to say that we must all agree to accept that there sometimes are some higher things in life that govern our relationships (that we may not understand, due to our limited knowledge of the universe) and we ought to leave them that way!
* Making a slur of our past relationships only worries us more. We must stop feeling victimized and understand that sadness, guilt, betrayal and all such negative emotions are essential for our lives to function. For, without them, we would never be able to figure out joy, happiness and mania. Remember, for every yin there is a yang! But like we can’t party every day, we can’t sulk every day too!
**NOT-SO-DISCLAIMER: Just in case you thought I was doling out all this gyaan without any personal experience, I would like to let you know that I have had enough of what it takes to write all of this and I am still waiting to live more, learn more!
Closing with a Rumi quote: “Whatever you know or you don't...Only love is real!”
Love will stay supreme!
Nirupama
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