As people wade through various joyous and distasteful incidents in their life, the one cross road that most people come across in their minds is “to change or not to change?” The change here could refer to a person’s individual self, his lifestyle, his company (people who he gets along with), the place where he stays and the list may go on!
So who exactly decides whether all or some of these things have to be changed: You, your friend, a stranger turned friend or any other person?
It was a few days ago that I happened to talk to one such person. A new found friend he was, who managed to probe questions that I would generally not answer someone if I knew what the conversation was leading to. The conversation clearly appeared to be a forced session of ‘I want to help you’ despite my insisting that I am happy the way things are with me. It was amusing at the way how people in the name of feeling a ‘connection’ with you want to change you, whether or not you like it.
This incident brought to me a new perspective of life & living and that is… when people see you on a certain day, or even if they have been seeing you for a long time, they would not know the end-to-end of every single story that goes on in your life, somewhere there will be a point where they may get disconnected with you, but you are the only one who has experienced every feeling, every story, every emotion bit by bit and this makes you the sole decider of what to do with yourself. Your choices as against your circumstances may look wrong to some people, people may sometimes even bruise you with their words on your decision making; however it’s you who has to take a call to allow people’s advice affect you in any manner.
I am a firm believer of destiny and I think that destiny is pre-destined.
I feel Karma has a role to play too (what goes around comes around).
And I also know that the two statements that I made above are contradictions to each other; so that may make me look like a confused person, but I have my own reasons to believe in my own thoughts, fairly because its only I who knows the story of my life, just the way it is going!
So the next time when you don’t want to change for an advice from a person, how much ever you respect them…do what makes you feel right and light and yes let them know about it too!
So who exactly decides whether all or some of these things have to be changed: You, your friend, a stranger turned friend or any other person?
It was a few days ago that I happened to talk to one such person. A new found friend he was, who managed to probe questions that I would generally not answer someone if I knew what the conversation was leading to. The conversation clearly appeared to be a forced session of ‘I want to help you’ despite my insisting that I am happy the way things are with me. It was amusing at the way how people in the name of feeling a ‘connection’ with you want to change you, whether or not you like it.
This incident brought to me a new perspective of life & living and that is… when people see you on a certain day, or even if they have been seeing you for a long time, they would not know the end-to-end of every single story that goes on in your life, somewhere there will be a point where they may get disconnected with you, but you are the only one who has experienced every feeling, every story, every emotion bit by bit and this makes you the sole decider of what to do with yourself. Your choices as against your circumstances may look wrong to some people, people may sometimes even bruise you with their words on your decision making; however it’s you who has to take a call to allow people’s advice affect you in any manner.
I am a firm believer of destiny and I think that destiny is pre-destined.
I feel Karma has a role to play too (what goes around comes around).
And I also know that the two statements that I made above are contradictions to each other; so that may make me look like a confused person, but I have my own reasons to believe in my own thoughts, fairly because its only I who knows the story of my life, just the way it is going!
So the next time when you don’t want to change for an advice from a person, how much ever you respect them…do what makes you feel right and light and yes let them know about it too!
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