Deserve?

A language of feelings

There's a word "deserve"...heard of it?

Ah! Yes, the same thing that we use several times a day for ourselves and quite often for others too!

So, what is it all about?

*Does "deserve" mean validating our capacities against fortune?
*Does "deserve" reflect our personalities or does it have to?
*Who is a well-deserving and who is non-deserving? And most importantly who decides that?

-Does an 81-year old professor, an Economist, a leader of the world's largest democracy, who has chosen to stay quite most of the times not because he didn't have something to say, but simply for reasons he knows best, DESERVE such foul social disrespect?

-Does Yo-Yo Honey Singh, who more often than not, sings songs which downgrade women DESERVE so much fanfare?

-Does a 45 year-old intellectual, who gave up a plum career for his desire to bring about a massive social change DESERVE so much of judgmental wrath from people who don't even know how to run their own households?

Think more…

-Did Shiva deserve such a painful parting with his most beloved Sati?
-Did Nirbhaya or any girl like her deserve that which they got? 

-Does a 32 year old Major Varadharajan deserve death whilst fighting militants and does his wife and little child deserve his loss?

Life is absolute hapless in its behaviour, what you see is not what it always is. I therefore have a humble request to make... please don't decide the "Deserve" for anyone.

If you really think you want to do something just be humble and kind to people around. And the next time when you have this urge of telling or asking someone what they deserve, just look back into your own lives...do a little self-check if you really 'deserve' all the good you have and also ask your heart, do you 'deserve' all the pain you go through, from time to time?
The world is in pain and it sure does not deserve so much of it! I am sure you will agree with this!

Love.Peace!
Nirupama